If you’re reading this, you or someone you know is likely struggling with narcissism. Narcissism is not a condition we have to live with–there are ways to break the cycle of self-love and hate.
This article will provide 50 affirmations for narcissists and recovering from narcissism. These affirmations can help you learn to love yourself, accept yourself for who you are, and have healthier relationships with others.
What is Narcissism?
Narcissism is a condition in which a person has an inflated sense of self-importance and an excessive need for admiration. People with narcissism often have difficulty relating to others and may be excessively critical or defensive. Narcissism can lead to problems in relationships, work, and social interactions.
While narcissism often comes off as extreme arrogance, it is typically caused by deep-seated insecurity and low self-worth. You may feel the need to constantly prove yourself to others: your talent, intelligence, style, beauty, or any other number of things. This belief and subsequent behaviors have become so engrained that you may not even realize they’re there.
If you’re struggling with narcissism, know that you are not alone. There is help available, and change is possible.
My Journey as a Covert Narcissist
Within the last couple of years, I realized I am a covert narcissist. Luckily, when I discovered it, I had already made a lot of progress and felt okay about my discovery. Identifying as a narcissist doesn’t have to be a death sentence for joy and connection in your life. In fact, making that discovery might be what revitalizes your life!
I realized that I was highly focused on myself and struggled to relate to others and see things from their perspective. I purposefully did things (and still do, sometimes) for admiration and attention, and I was a hard-core people-pleaser to put myself on a pedestal. (In other words, my selflessness made me better than others.)
But discovering affirmations helped me rewire my mindset and help broaden my perspective. I am still recovering from narcissism; some days are better than others. I specifically wrote these affirmations for myself on my recovery, but I wanted to share them in hopes they will help someone else as well.
50 Affirmations for Narcissists and Narcissism Recovery
- I let go of the need to be right all the time.
- I am in control of myself.
- I appreciate it when others talk about themselves.
- I listen intently without intending to say anything.
- Everyone is on their own journey.
- I look at every conversation as more significant than myself.
- I stop taking responsibility for others’ actions.
- I take responsibility for myself.
- I take responsibility for my mindset.
- I think before I speak.
- I understand that not everyone will like me.
- I know that I am not responsible for others’ feelings.
- I allow myself to be open and vulnerable.
- I create my own happiness.
- I do not need validation from others to feel good about myself.
- My worth comes from within me.
- I love and accept myself for who I am.
- I am comfortable in my own skin.
- I am confident in myself and my abilities.
- I do not need to prove myself.
- I trust myself.
- I make decisions that are best for me and others around me.
- I respect myself and others around me.
- I take care of myself- mind, body, and soul.
- I am patient with myself and others.
- I do not compare myself to others.
- I have healthy boundaries.
- I know when to say no.
- I know when to walk away from toxic people and situations.
- I nurture my relationships.
- I am honest with myself and others around me.
- I acknowledge that communication is critical in all relationships.
- I communicate my needs objectively.
- I am worthy even on my worst day.
- I am not my mistakes.
- I am human, and I make mistakes.
- I learn and grow from my mistakes.
- I forgive myself for my past mistakes.
- I forgive others for any wrongdoings.
- I fill my life with positive things that make me happy.
- I am grateful for the good and bad moments.
- All my emotions are valid.
- It is okay to not be okay sometimes.
- I take time for myself when I need it.
- I give myself grace.
- I love myself unconditionally.
- I let go of frustration with myself and others.
- I release my need to correct others.
- I listen actively when others speak.
- I always try to understand what others are saying before I speak or move on.