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How PAINFUL Is Giving Birth?—Your Ultimate Guide

Pain in labor and childbirth is one of the primary reasons why women have feelings of anticipation, dread, and fear concerning childbirth. In our culture, and in many others, childbirth is known as the worst pain that anyone has experienced or could endure. How painful is giving birth, really?

When I was pregnant with my first child, I read books and googled everything I could about childbirth and various women’s experiences. I wanted to know how much pain I would be in.

New mom and newborn baby after painful labor and childbirth

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Ultimate Guide to Pain in Childbirth — How Painful Is Giving Birth?

We’re presented with images of women in labor in the media, and I knew that it would probably be much different, but I didn’t expect how different.


(Seriously, your birth won’t be anything like you’ve seen on TV or the movies!)

So I’ve compiled everything you need to know about pain during childbirth. Here’s what’s in this article:

  1. What causes pain in labor?
  2. Two types of pain
    • Contractions
    • Pressure, Ring of Fire & Tearing
    • Describing pain
    • Measuring Pain
  3. Improve Your Chances at a Less Painful Childbirth
    • Left Occiput Anterior is the Optimal Position
    • Exercises for Optimal Position
    • Cultural Expectations, Tension, and Lizard Brain
    • Preventing Ring of Fire and Tearing
    • Prevent Inductions
    • Labor Positions
  4. Pain Management in Labor
    • Type of Pain Management
    • Cesarean Section

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If you’re ready to learn how painful it is giving birth, read on.

What Causes Pain in Labor and Childbirth?

Pain during labor is caused by contractions of the uterus. (You probably already knew that one.) But did you know that it is also caused by pressure on the cervix and pelvic floor as well?

Many things can contribute to how painful it is to give birth, including:

Things that do NOT influence pain during labor:

Being fit before you get pregnancy, like doing a women’s health yoga program won’t affect the pain you experience. Working out during pregnancy may help with swelling, aches, and pains brought on by pregnancy, but will not help you experience less pain in labor.

Much of what you hear may or may not decrease pain in labor is anecdotal.

It worked for one woman, so it must work for me, right?!

Unfortunately no. Many women swear that red raspberry leaf tea (good for MANY things) helped them decrease their pain (there is no evidence for this). Or that being fit helped them deliver more easily (many unfit women have reasonable births while other fit women have extremely painful births!).

Yoga during pregnancy will not likely change how painful birth is for you.

But the good news is that there are many things that you can do to help decrease your potential pain in childbirth!

Two Types of Pain While Giving Birth

Did you know there are actually different types of pain?

In labor and childbirth, you experience two clinical types of pain, visceral and somatic.


The visceral pain is described as the pressure of the uterine contraction, which happens in Stage 1 (early and active labor, and transition).

Contractions are similar to what your uterus does during your period. When you get cramps, it’s from your uterus gentle squeezing out your uterine lining. When you have contractions, your body is more forcefully squeezing out your baby. And the uterus is one of the strongest muscles in the body.

Contractions may feel different depending on what kind of contractions they are Braxton Hicks feels different than prodromal labor, which feels different from the contractions of real labor.

Pressure, Ring of Fire, & Tearing

Somatic pain is the stretching and potential tearing of the tissue as the baby exits the birth canal. Mothers experience this type of pain in Stage 2 of labor as the baby is born.

If you’ve taken birth classes, you’ve probably heard about the ring of fire. The ring of fire is the stretching pain when the baby’s head is crowning. The perineum (the flesh between the vagina and anus) stretches (and sometimes tears). Often, this is described as the most painful part of birth.

Your care provider may convince you that you need an episiotomy (a cut to open the vagina further), but research has proven this to be unnecessary and oftentimes risky. Tearing naturally can be painful, but women often tear worse with an episiotomy.

When answering the question how painful is giving birth, the most significant answer lies in this part of childbirth. Not only can this be the most painful during the act of giving birth, but can also cause the most pain after childbirth because it takes a long time to heal.

Describing Pain

Here are some places and ways that you may feel pain during childbirth:

  • aching in abdomen
  • aching in legs and hip
  • pressure on your abdomen
  • pressure on your lungs and chest
  • pressure on your cervix
  • stretching of your tissues as baby pushes through
  • tearing of tissues

Measuring Pain

There was an image circulating around a while back about the human body being able to withstand 45 “dels” of pain, while childbirth is typically 57.

This is a hoax, folks.

There was a start to quantify measurements of pain back in the 40s, but it never took off because it was too complicated and their methods were… a little sadistic. (Read the article… they would burn the hands of women in labor.) But the unit they came up with was the “dol” and it is measured by a “dolorimeter”.

In any case, the standard description of pain is still just a 0-10 scale. I like the color coded numerical scale (#11) from the Pain Doctor.

  • 0= No pain
  • 1= minimal
  • 2= mild
  • 3= uncomfortable
  • 4= moderate
  • 5= distracting
  • 6= distressing
  • 7= unmanageable
  • 8= intense
  • 9= severe
  • 10= unable to move

Improve Your Chances at a Less Painful Childbirth

Pregnant woman.

First of all, there are women that experience very little pain in childbirth, there are women who can barely withstand the pain of labor and childbirth, and there are women who have orgasms during childbirth because it was so pleasurable (WHAT?!).

The range of pain felt is extremely wide, and you can’t know where your pain will be on the spectrum until you experience it.

I experienced absolute extreme pain in my unmedicated birth, level 10, no doubt. Perhaps I have a very low pain tolerance… which would make sense because I’m highly sensitive to feelings, hot, cold, and even nagging little aches and pains. I am hyper-aware of my body, and I feel that if you have an acute awareness of your body, you might experience higher levels of pain as well.

You can’t control your pain tolerance level. But there are things that you can do to increase your chances at a less painful birth. One of the most influential steps you can take is to make sure that baby is in the right position.

(For this section, Spinning Babies is the website you want to head to… they have all the information you could ever want on positioning your baby. But I will summarize and highlight some main points.)

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Left Occiput Anterior is the Optimal Position

In LOA (Left Occiput Anterior) the baby has his back to the mother’s left side and faces her spine. This is the absolute best position for birth because it allows the baby to tuck his chin and pass through the pelvic bone easily.

In many other positions, the baby could have his head tipped back, or could be pressing against the spine, which could cause back labor. Back labor is described as being much more painful than labor in which baby is in LOA. You can feel intense pressure and pain even between contractions (eek.)

Exercises for Optimal Position

There are so many little things that you can do to put baby in a good position, stretch out your pelvis (to make sure baby has enough space), and even relieve your own aches late in pregnancy.

Check out this video. I watched this many times when pregnant with both boys, and she does a great job of explaining how it all works.

Remember, positioning baby works for pain during labor because the best position can make sure you don’t have worse pain during labor by potentially preventing back labor, and even shortening the amount of time labor takes. But it won’t prevent pain entirely.

Cultural Expectations, Tension, and Lizard Brain

Not every culture has the the same expectations of pain in childbirth. This our thoughts have a direct effect on how much pain we will be in.

You may think this one is a little hippy-trippy, but the science behind it is true.

Programs like Hypno-babies and Blissborn help to break down the stigmas of birth, your fears and expectations, and allow you to relax during the process.

The science is this: if you have fear or cultural stigmas around birth, you will be tense. Tension causes you and your baby to be in fight or flight, and can cause other symptoms, like sub-par birthing position.

If you treat the fear and learn to relax through the use of self-hypnosis, you can get into your “lizard brain“. Your lizard brain is where the most instinctual processes of our brain happen, birth included. With relaxation and healthy mindfulness, you can reach a place where you are preventing further pain caused by being in your feeling or thinking brains and experiencing fear.

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Preventing the Ring of Fire & Tearing

The Ring of Fire and tearing can be prevented.

Perineal massage can help tremendously with making sure your vaginal opening is stretched and flexible enough to provide room for baby’s head. Perineal massage is exactly what it sounds like. You can find plenty of resources online to help you get started. Here are two:

Other ways to help include staying hydrated, hot compress during pushing stage, avoiding coached pushing, and avoiding pushing through the pain.

Prevent Induction

Another way to minimize your potential pain during labor is to avoid the use of pitocin. Some women claim that it was not terrible or did not change their contractions at all. But most women agree that pitocin made their contractions stronger and that they did not get a break in between.

There are times when an induction is the best choice for your baby. (If the baby is in distress, or the mother is in distress, for instance.) But it doesn’t have to be your only option if you fear going past your due date.

A few ways to get labor started on its own include:

  • sex
  • nipple stimulation
  • acupuncture
  • membrane sweep
  • red raspberry leaf tea (anecdotal evidence)
  • eating dates
  • eating pineapple
  • walking
  • bouncing on a balance ball

Labor Positions

Women did not start giving birth on their backs until men entered the birth room. Literally, for decades, midwives were present at births and it was common for women to give birth in a leaning position, squatting position, sitting position, or on all fours. When doctors decided that they needed a clearer picture, they would make women birth on their backs (also called the supine position).

You can reduce not only pain, but additional complications by laboring and birthing in a squatting position. Sad news, if you are hooked up to an IV at a hospital, you will not be able to birth in this position. There are other positions to birth in that are better than on your back, including a side-lying position with one leg supported.

Here is a fantastic article about the dangers of giving birth on your back.

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Pain Management In Labor and Birth

When we think of pain management during childbirth, we think of the gold standard of all pain meds: the epidural. But there are many others.

Natural Methods (non-medication)

Some ways to manage pain in labor and childbirth if you plan on giving birth without medication:

Self-hypnosis, breathing, visualization. Use these resources:

Massage and pressure (especially on the back and hips):

Heat (hot shower, bed buddy):


Nitrous oxide, or laughing gas, can be inhaled to take the edge off. With the severity of contractions, it’s less a pain manager and more in the business of helping you stay in your lizard brain. For many women, nitrous oxide helps ease anxiety more than pain.

(Oh, and it’s not the same thing you get at the dentist’s office!)

IV Analgesics

These are pain meds that are delivered into an IV. Again, these can help make pain milder, but won’t take away the pain completely. Some women can’t even tell a difference!

Pudendal Block

A pudendal is the use of lidocaine or another local anesthetic to block pain to the vagina and rectum area.


For an epidural, a doctor will place a needle directly into the epidural space around the spinal cord. When it works properly, it completely numbs the lower half of the body.

This is nice for women in labor because then you can’t feel your contractions. But it comes with a host of potential side effects, including:

For many women, these side effects are not worth the risk. But in most cases, the use of epidural is safe.

A woman and baby after c-section. How painful is giving birth via c-section?

Cesarean Section

For many women, the idea of scheduling a c-section is a way to bypass the pain of labor and childbirth altogether.

You may have an epidural, a spinal, or potentially general anesthesia (if it is an emergency).

C-Sections may require more pain management for a longer time postpartum. A c-section is, after all, major surgery.


Pain experienced in labor and birth is not a predictor of maternal satisfaction! That’s great news, because even if it truly is the most painful thing you ever experience, it won’t mean that you will hate your birth experience!

To answer the question how painful is giving birth, you must take all of these considerations into account, and no one will know how painful it will be for them until it happens.

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Christa Carter-Williams

Monday 7th of October 2019

I def wish I had this for my pregnancies! All great information in one place!

Julie M Smith

Monday 7th of October 2019

Very informative post! There are so many ways to manage pain during labor. I was shocked to learn I was 8 cm dilated when we finally decided to go to the hospital. So was my doula when I told her I was ready because I was managing the pain so well. We are so strong!

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