Why Letting Go of Control is the One Thing Holding You Back
So you’ve passionately declared your “Why”. You’re working your butt off toward your goal. You feel as if you’re making progress, but somehow, everything stalls.
The success you crave has yet to come. You’re aligned with your priorities, but you feel as if you’re drowning every day.
There’s one more piece of the puzzle. Whether you are religious or subscribe to the notion of manifesting, it’s all the same.
You have to LET GO.
Quotes about letting go, or letting go of control are all around us: in our religions, and in our pop culture. Let’s take a look at some Letting Go Quotes:
“The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers.”Princess Leia.
“Hold on loosely… if you cling too tightly you’re gonna lose control.”38 Special (Hold on Loosely)
“Non-attachment is not complacency. It doesn’t imply a lack of caring and commitment. The philosophy of non-attachment is based in the understanding that holding on too tightly to those things, which in any case are always going to be slipping through out fingers, hurts and gives us rope burn.”-Lama Surya Das
“Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.”-Yoda
“Nonresistance, nonjudgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.”-Eckhardt Tolle
“When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the groundlessness of our situation and relax into its dynamic quality, that’s called enlightenment.”Pema Chödrön
Why do you need to let go of control?
Lori Deschene at Tiny Buddha tells us this: “There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful.”
Holding on to something, whether it be worry, routine, our rituals, future goals, or our belief about the way life should be gives us a measure of control. And with that control, we feel less vulnerable to the changes and tides of our lives.
In truth, holding onto those things and clinging to that small measure of control only brings us closer to suffering.
Think of it like surfing.
If you’ve never surfed before, that’s okay. I have once, when my husband and I were in Hawaii. I actually caught a wave and felt so proud of myself!
Moments after this picture was taken, as I took the board back out to our surfing class group, a wave pummeled me.
I struggled and fought against the wave as it crashed over me. The currents in Hawaii were wicked strong and I was no match for their power. I honestly could have drowned.
But the wave subsided and I came back to the surface, adrenaline pumping.
What I learned later, when I was refueling on the shore after class was over (okay, okay… after that one wave, I left the ocean for the safety of the beach… my blood-sugar was low and the rush left me feeling quite sick).
Anyway, I learned later that if I had let the current take me, it would have spat me back out on the surface anyway, and I wouldn’t have lost so much energy fighting something I was powerless against.
I suffered because I tried to maintain control.
If I had let go, I wouldn’t have suffered, and I certainly wouldn’t have feared going back out into the waves.
Letting Go of Control
When you let go of control, you allow space for acceptance, enjoyment, and peace. Whether you believe in God, or the energy of the universe, there are much bigger forces at play than you could ever imagine.
Your success, your happiness, and so much of the good things in life come to you from miraculous sources.
So as you work toward your goals, allow yourself the space to let go of control. Let life take you and work its magic. And if something negative and unexpected happens, expect that life is propelling you to exactly where you need to be.
Don’t fight it! Let go!