I don’t know about you, but after a trauma like a job loss or miscarriage, my confidence level plummets. It’s really the last thing that I’m thinking about because I have so many other things on my mind. But the truth of the matter is that I don’t like being around people because I fear they’re judging me. I worry that they can see the anger and the jealousy and the failure. I’m not good at hiding my true self from the world.
So when I’m feeling this way, I have really simple techniques that I do regularly to help get me back on my feet. I hope you try these three easy ways to boost confidence!
1.) Take a Walk.
I know, the last thing you want to do when you’re feeling down and depressed is to get up and exercise. Curling up on the couch under blankets and watching three seasons of “Psych” in a row sounds MUCH better.
But exercise is the best way to stabilize your hormones. Exercise releases endorphins, which are the body’s feel-good chemicals. I’m not telling you to go run a marathon or spend 2 hours at the gym. Just 20 minutes of walking is enough to get your blood moving and increase your mood! How cool is that?!
2.) Say Hello to Strangers.
Maybe choose to take your walk through a park, or in the morning on a Saturday or just before sunset any day of the week. A lot of other people may be out walking their dogs or playing with their kids at the park.
When you pass them, practice saying hello. You don’t have to stop to have a conversation. You don’t have to smile at them. Just make an effort to greet everyone you pass. (If you live in some cities like New York where everyone keeps to themselves, I know this may be a difficult task.)
Greeting people allows you to engage in human contact without much other expectation. It’s simple, it’s over in a flash, and there are no strings. Some people may even smile back at you, which always lifts my mood.
3.) Practice power-stances.
in powerful poses can alter your brain chemistry. Did you know that?
Take a few minutes and watch one of my favorite TED Talks by Amy Cuddy, about Body Language. When I taught high school, I made my classes watch it and respond, but it’s educational for people of all ages.
This sort of thing requires no fitness level or yoga to practice successfully. If you take two minutes at the beginning of your day to stand or sit in powerful positions like those in the video, it could drastically change the outcome of your day. I do my power stances in the shower. Seriously.
That’s it! Pretty simple, right? These easy ways to boost confidence are surely going to help you get back upright and take on the world!
What about you? What do you do to build confidence and practice healthy self-esteem?